Update-living with bf
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Update-living with bf
| Fri, 08-13-2004 - 11:03am |
Update- first I want to thank you all for your advice, as of now I will just be living at my apt in the fall then in the spring I am not sure. This fall I plan on slowly spending more time at my place, I am no longer going to ask my bf about officially living with him bc he knows my situation and knows I need a place for Jan. Perhaps he will speak up and say hey you can officially live with me, perhaps he will not. In any event I think this will be ‘the talk’, because I refuse to live with him without his parents knowing and me paying half. Think about it, if I did just continue to stay with him unofficially it makes it that much easier for him to just throw me out if we get into a fight. So when this convo comes it will either make or break us. Unfortunately I cannot control this, I must live someplace and the option of just staying with him unofficially does not exist, by the time this convo rolls around we will have been together for over 3 yrs, if he cannot make a further commitment then I am not sure he is that serious after all. He seems to be living in ‘his’ world and only thinking about not telling his dad and getting everything for free. It is just so upsetting that there is the possibility that he would throw away what we have worked so hard at, he the kind of guy who would see my reasoning above as being me breaking up with him, when it is not that at all. I just have to worry about my back as well, I do not have a lovely apt for free. Sorry to vent , but it feels better to write everything out.

Now, I would NOT count on ever moving in with this guy. If you can't afford to live on your own, get a female roommate. This guy has it all and there's no reason for him to change. Why would he tell his dad he wants you to live there and pay half the rent? He knows his dad would not agree with that and would stop paying for him to live on his own. And since you are always there, it's convinient for him, he doesn't get to miss you, since YOU always go over there. You need to stay every night at YOUR own place from now on. After 3 years together you don't know where HE'S at yet? Doesn't that tell you something?
You need to find yourself a place to live. Then you may want to think about finding a man who wants to be with you, isn't into playing childish games and supports himself.