update-on "sometimes i just don't know"

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Registered: 03-27-2003
update-on "sometimes i just don't know"
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Sun, 10-09-2005 - 2:06pm
thank you all for your very kind words and advice. heres what happened....
i called him yesterday and we talked. he said he needed time and space and couldnt continue in "this" as he himself was still hurting from the break up with his ex and needs to heal himself. he stated that he couldnt give me what i deserved now and that he loved me but was not in love with me. that hurt. i told him i loved him and when you love someone you give them what they need, so i let go. it was what he needed and i gave it to him. he said he needed to straighten his life out and heal. that going from one relationship into another was not healthy. i agree and i understand that. i am just very sad. i had been alone for 7 years and never wanted to give anyone a chance to get close to me and then i finally did with him. i feel let down and disappointed. i was finally able to open my heart after such a long time and feel again and then this happened. sometimes i just dont know............
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 2:20pm
Sorry. I didn't realize you are the same person and I answered your other thread. I'm so sorry that you are feeling so sad. I've been there myself. After a bad break-up I wouldn't let anyone get too close to me for about 5 years or so. Looking back, I know I let a couple of promising relationships fizzle out. This guy was just not ready to move on. You don't want a bf who is still wrapped up in his ex. It's no fun. (I've been there too). You need to get out there and date and like Starbuck says, have a no under construction rule. You may have fewer dates, but they will be quality dates. That's how my dating life is right now.

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