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Using me or just scared?
| Thu, 03-04-2004 - 11:06pm |
Me and my ex had been going out for almost two months when he broke up with me. It took me 2 times for him to ask me out to finally say yes. He was my first real boyfriend. I could tell he cared for me. While at work, he would call me. We would meet places to just be together. At first we started getting cool with eachother and then became more comfortable with eachother. I became very close to him and would think about him, a lot. I would still look at other guys when he wasnt around but I truly cared for him and would have never thought of breaking up. He liked me too, at least I think so. One night, he called me and said he had to tell me something. He gave me a big speech on out relationship and how it was going. Then he just said he needed some time. The "spark" was gone, he said. He needed time to see if he could get it back, he said. Other couples do it, he told me. Then he ended it with "Im sorry baby". After his speech, i was heartbroken for a minute then called my friend. She cheered me up and I guess I looked forward to being single again. Then at school... He ignores me. He doesnt talk to me at all and acts as if I wasnt there when I'm right next to him. I remember him saying how he didnt want us to end up like other couples, hating eachother and he's proven to contradict himself. My friend told me he was just scared of commitment, I dont know how true this is. I dont know what I should do. I feel like asking him whats wrong because I want to still talk to him but I dont want to seem as if I want him back. Even though I liked him so much I would never accept him back since he hurt me so much and just dropped me like some toy he got tired of. I was thinking of calling, or should I still ignore him ? please I need some advice, its driving me crazy. Thank you

He was a jerk for ignoring you. That was rude, immature and cruel. But it was probably his way of trying to send a clear message to you that he does NOT want you as a girlfriend. So no, you shouldn't call him or fantasize about getting back with him. If he tries to come back to you, it will probably be his own selfish purposes, and he will hurt you again. Let it go. When you see him at school, you can ignore him too.
You are young and there are other fish in the sea. But next time, try moving a little slower. Get to know the guy well before you decide to become intimate... make sure you BOTH understand what kind of relationship you're getting into.
Take care.
I truly dont like him anymore but when I think of calling him, my heart starts beating really fast. I've moved on but I just wish I didnt have to see him everyday.
Take care!