Vacation No Car. New Girl

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Vacation No Car. New Girl
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 10:30am
Last night i was at a restaraunt and i i met this girl that is a hostess there. I got her number and we seemed to click. The problem is i dont know anything about this city im in, and i dont have a car. Im embarrased to ask her drive but i dont think i have choice. I also dont know what the hell to do. Should i let her make the decision on where to go. She from around here so she might know more. All i have is her name and her number

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 11:17am

Pick up a newspaper, see if there's a town website with an events calendar - if you are going to ask her out, have a plan in mind.

For a first date, I don't see anything wrong with meeting up at the location. She can driver herself, you can use public transportation.


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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 11:48am
Would it be wrong for me to ask her to pick me up? Meeting there just seems immature/ juvenile to me.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:05pm

I don't think it would be *wrong*, but maybe give her the option.

No offense to you, or any other man, but I personally wouldn't feel comfortable getting into a car with a man I don't know, or letting one into my car - particularly with the Kelsey Smith case so fresh - I think something like that puts women on edge.


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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:11pm
we are both only 19 though i dont think she frightened by me. But i do understand what you are saying. Giving her the option would probably be a good idea. I met her last night when would be the best tiime to call. Since you are a woman you would know how long after a man should call. I honestly cant keep her out of my head.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:31pm

Call tonight or tomorrow to see if she wants to make plans for Saturday or Sunday.

I'm not a big fan of the supposed 3 day rule.

If you're interested, call her. Don't play games.


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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:39pm
I don't see the problem in calling her as soon as you would like to call her. Waiting the ceremonial 2 days is kind of immature. I also don't see the problem with you just telling her that you do not have any transportation but would like to see her. She may offer to pick you up. You can also opt to rent a car, if you choose to do so.
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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:44pm
Yea i wish i could rent a car at 19 but unfornately i cant. Yea i think im just going to let her know that i dont have a car and if she wants to pick me up she can but i could also meet her anywhere if she would like. Any other advice that would help. Like what to do with her. I looked in the paper couldnt find much. I was think movies maybe. the place is pretty cool its like an outdoor mall with a theatre. What do yall think any more advice? Yall are great by the way.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 12:58pm

At 19 you can't rent a car? How is that possible?

I agree, tell her about your situation with no transportation and see if she quickly chimes in "I can pick you up." If there is a delay, then you can offer to meet her somewhere. But being new to her town, I would think she would want to pick you up.

Since you don't know her, I would think you would want to spend time talking to her. You can go to a movie and have something to eat afterwards. This way you can break any initial awkward silences with conversation about the movie. Or you can do dinner and drinks. Just make sure you tell her that you would love to eat at a place where it is quiet enough for the two of you to talk and get acquainted. The reason I say that is because you are not from her area, she may want to take you someplace "happening" with lots of noise or music, when you may want something more intimate.

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 2:02pm
Yea i know doesnt that suck. You have to be 21 or some bull like that. I appreciate all the advice. ive never had this much trouble because ive never been in this situation. You have helped me alot. thanks to both of you.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 06-06-2007 - 2:02pm

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Umm, because of insurance purposes.

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