very confused (i need advice) lil long
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| Fri, 11-10-2006 - 3:03pm |
Hello,
Well my story is i started dating this for a couple months now... we've known each other because he used to work where i used to work... He left to school and we kept in great contact... well as friend he trusted in telling me that he was confused by dating this girl that was engaged and she was going to call the wedding off.. (she kept on playing with his feeling back and fourth) well appearantly she didn't stay with my guy and married her so called fiance... i know he was hurt that she actually married her guy. we were hanging out and just casual friends stuff when one night we kissed and decided to see where this takes us... ( this was in sept)he had stop dating her in june... he saw her for 6 months... well whatever... the point is we have been seeing each other and talking to each every single day. the past 2 weeks he has been acting weird... i know he has been talking to this girl again bc she has left him messages and throwing lil comments like... just thinking and saying hello from your favorite... she also says thinking... and she wrote other stupid things... i asked him if he was considering her again and he said no.. but on weds i asked him where do we stand.. he said i don't know. I don't want to be tied down bc i don't know if i want a relationship or not... I asked him if he wants me to back to see where he stands with his feeling and he also said i don't know. I decided to stop calling him as much as i used to (well i stopped totally)and to see what happens.. but he keeps on texting me with whats up and he keeps im'n me when he sees me online...i really like him and care for him. i am so confused that i don't know what to think, feel or see... that girl really makes me feel uncomfortable but he doesn't seem to think anything bad of her e-mails or her lil comments... should i just forget about him and just see... or just have a lil hope that everything will work out... his last words were we will just have to see what each day brings us... i don't get it. he says he cares and likes me, but i think different.
P.S.
did i forget to mention that for her honeymoon she was taking off in the port of miami and wanted my guy to go see her... where the hell was her husband.
he told her no bc that weekend we was with me and then he finally told her that he was with me.. and ever since he told her that she has been coming along constantly... Should i confront her and write to her or just ignore her?

There's no need to confront her, she's not the issue here. Personally it seems to me that this guy is confused, hence your confusion. The truth is that you're being too accommodating. You're asking him if he wants to get back together to see if he wants to be with you. Why would you put yourself in that position? If he wanted to be with you, he would. I'm sure he cares about you and likes you as a person but the more you hang around, the more you'll wind up hurting yourself.
Is it really worth your self dignity and respect to stay in a situation that is not bringing something positive in your life?
Not only would I stop calling this guy, I would not hold out hope. Otherwise I think you'll be caught in a love triangle and I think you deserve more than that.