Very confused, past keeps coming back!

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Registered: 03-29-2004
Very confused, past keeps coming back!
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Fri, 06-18-2004 - 2:39pm
ok, a few days ago my boyfriend of a year broke up with me, when i said goodbye to him and told him to leave he changed his mind and said he just wanted a break. The next day he changed his mind again and said he just wanted everything back. Now he is acting like he never broke my heart and never brokeup with me. Anyways these past days, all three of my ex-boyfriends have came out of no where. I have remained friendly towards most of my ex's and thats why its not such a big deal talking to them. Anyways, now two of them are asking to be with me again and just last night, my last ex-boyfriend showed up at my house after 6 months. So now i don't know what to do, because the one guy who showed up at my house, i cared alot for when we dated. When this guy and I dated we made a promise to try and date again when we were both single and try and see if it works this time. Last night when he was here, he was telling me how him and his new girlfriend kept breaking up and he asked me if i was single. I still have feelings for this guy and i want to tell him. Last night, I told him i wanted to tell him something and i think he knew something because he told me why don't we wait till you know where your going with you boyfriend now and my girlfriend now, and until then lets just hangout and see what happens. So now i'm confused as ever. Does anyone have any advice what i should do?
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 4:23pm

I can't advise you

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 1:14pm
I have been in this situation /kind of. I would say you probably need to tell all of these guys you need some space, you need to be alone at least for a little while to think. Alot of times we jump from one relationship to another and that is very unhealthy. Just break off from everything (even if that includes going to a unknown hotel-so noone can bother you for a weekend) and contemplate what xmissbeehavin wants. Then follow your heart-forget what they all want!