To wait or Take action?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
To wait or Take action?
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 6:06pm

Hi folks. My question is ... do you think one could WAIT AROUND to bump into the right guy in the daily course of life and still find somebody? Or do you think it is better to Go Out There and make contacts. Do you all ever meet anybody in the daily course of life? I know of a friend who met someone in a grocery store when they were least expecting it! But I believe these cases are rare.

It would be interesting to conduct a poll and see where everyone "met" their significant others!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 7:06pm

Like anything else, I think there's a balance you should strike between "going after" the relationship you want, while not becoming consumed by the search.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 7:26pm

You could wait around and see if you bump into Mr. Right, but your chances of finding him are a lot better if you make it known to the world you are looking. It's a numbers game, and Mr. Right might be on the Internet, in a bar or in some sort of hobby group or a friend of a friend.

I'd suggest getting out there to increase your chances of meeting him/her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 7:48pm

Thank you Jilly and Chamey. Those were some excellent thoughts.
Yeah, I am not working yet, plus, internet dating seems really tedious. I do have friends, but I usually go out one on one with them. I don't know how I don't get to meet "their" friends. Plus, I don't go to bars. And I have not yet joined any hobby groups yet. I am just engrossed in finding a job at this stage. Don't think I am doing much to increase my chances of meeting people. Hence this frustration.
Thanks for your thoughts...once again. More are welcome...

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 8:29am
I agree with you about meeting someone at work.
Alot of people frown up on it, but I don't. I think that's one of the best places to meet someone if you can be discreet and mature and professional about it.
If not, then I'd leave it alone.
I've known three couples who hooked up at work and no one really knew their business. Well if they did, they were quiet about it.
Two of them married and one of them are shacking. But I think it's a good place to meet people. I met my ex boyfriend at work and we were pretty discreet too. Even after I left the company, we still remained together.
So I wouldn't knock that out.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 1:27pm

I think it's both, actually. While you dont want to make your life revolve around looking for someone in the course of your daily life you should make an effort to make contacts, connect with people (including appealing men people!)


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-17-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 6:36pm

I think that you need to get out an mingle. For a while I didnt go out, nor did I really put my self in the situation were I could meet someone. And is not really about going out with the goal of meeting someone, the purpose is to go out, have fun and build up your confidence and guys will notice. And they come to you. I think that men can see the desperate look in women and it sccares them off.

I met my boyfriend online and believe me I wasnt looking and he wasnt looking either, we were both online and started a conversation and here we are 6 moths later.