Want To Contact Ex Before He Leaves....

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Want To Contact Ex Before He Leaves....
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:53am
Several months ago (about 8....wow, I can hardley believe it's been that long), me and my boyfriend parted ways. We agreed to be friends, though, but a few weeks after the initial break-up, he said that he couldn't do it. It was too hard (why I still do not understand, but that is another discussion for another time). He said some pretty hurtful things about how I now meant nothing to him (despite us begin VERY close...closer that most couples our age).

So, we went to college (separate ones, but in the same town). We still have a few mutual friends, though. Now, 8 months later, I hear that he does miss me and he wishes he could turn back time, but is just to afraid to say anything to me (I think it's his pride that is getting in the way). He joined Army ROTC and will be shipping off to basic training this summer and I would like to get in contact w/ him. It's more like I want to just wish him good luck. And perhaps if I get the ball rolling, we can catch up and see where things stand.

I was just wondering if I am making the right choice. I am scared to get in contact w/ him (I don't know why, lol....probably b/c I haven't talked to him in forever), but my heart tells me to just do it and see what happens. Does anyone have any good tips or suggestions on how to approach this?

Thanks! :)

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:29pm
Listen to your heart. And say what you mean and mean what you say. There's no formula for this. Just pick up the phone and say "hey I heard you were going away... I wanted to wish you well..." and go from there.

Life is too short for two people to allow pride to get in the way and cease all contact.

Hope this helps. Keep us posted!

 

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:07pm
Thank you so much! I will def let everyone know what happens! :)