Want to go out with a coworker

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Want to go out with a coworker
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Sat, 09-10-2005 - 7:40pm

Hi All! Ok, in the past I have been against dating someone at work. Although, I have never been attracted to someone at work until now. There is this guy that started with our company a couple of months ago. I just recently discovered that he is here. Our company has grown so much the past couple of years that I don't even bother trying to get to know everyone like I use to. Anyway, all that I know about this guy is that he is a couple years younger than me. He was recruited to our company from out-of-state and has no family in town. I only know that he is "single", but all I think that means is that he is not married. I really don't know if he is dating or has a girlfriend. We have had eye contact only once. We don't see each other because we are in two different departments on opposite sides of the building. I have only recently been able to catch him from time to time walking down the hall, but that is pretty far away.

So what do I do? I don't want to get other coworkers involved. Like I said he is in another part of the building way back in a corner which I have no reason to visit the area. I wouldn't even know how to set-up a "chance meeting".

Any ideas on how I can approach him? I want to talk to him and see if there is any indication of him wanting to get to know me as well. I thought that maybe I would send an email, but I really don't think he would have any idea who I am.

Or should I just leave it be?

I am very interested in hearing your input.

Thanks!

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 4:16pm
Leave it be and find someone who is interested in you enough to make a move.
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 4:58pm
If you've only made eye contact once, it doesn't seem like you have much to go on about how compatible you might be with this guy. Why not invite him to lunch with a group of co-workers so you can chat a bit with him with no pressure or risk? That at least would allow you to speak to him and get some idea first.
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 6:08pm

don't miss attending company get-togethers/picnics/other meetings etc :) u might just bump into him.

and if u r feeling bold, u could e-mail him welcoming him to the city and the office and tell him u heard from others he is new, and thought you'd drop in a word to him. mind you, this is a bold step but it'd just get the ball rolling. but always be cautious. who knows, what his character is like.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 11:33pm

Hi! Just wanted to update and let you all know that I took the "bold" step and emailed this guy. I kept trying to figure out if we would ever cross paths besides just seeing each other from afar. I really didn't think it would happen so I figured, "nothing ventured, nothing gained". Someone posted that quote and that is what gave me motivation to email him.

I was simply honest and told him that I wanted to introduce myself and basically that I wanted to get to know him. I also asked him to go to lunch sometime this week or next if he had time. He responed and told me a little about himself and said that he would love to do lunch tomorrow. Yay! Then we did a little back and forth emailing because when I found out where his home town was, I just knew who his favorite football team was which is my teams biggest rivalry. So we exchanged a few fun words and are both looking forward to tomorrow. I still don't have any idea if he knows exactly who I am. I guess we will have to see tomorrow.

Thanks all!!

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 3:10am
U go girl! Glad to hear that :-) He must have been quite flattered.
Goodluck! Have fun. Do find out if he is married/involved with another if you can. Inanycase, it always helps to get to know people in the company. Do write back with more updates!