Want something to happen

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Want something to happen
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Sun, 08-15-2004 - 8:10am
I have been going to this guy's business, garden center for several years, this guy is always friendly to his customers. He is laid back and nice. Everyone knows his first name and seems to like giving him business. Me too. I have always kind of "liked" him. I was in a relationship till this past winter. This spring when we saw each other we both seemed pretty happy. I have been over there to buy stuff lots this summer, doing a lot of gardening. I really like him now! Really. Anyway. I think he likes me too. But it has never gotten to a point of more than chit chat. He has never asked me my name. Last time I saw him we really had a nice chat. He is very nice to my daughter and last time called her by her name. Anyway, I am not the asking out type. A male friend tells me I have to ask him out. I just dont think i can. Not yet anyway. Even if he is shy too, shouldnt he ask me my name or somthing? Last time, we did seem to go farther with chatting and flirting. Its just, how many times can i go there when I am not needing that many supplies these days? Also, with fall coming, feel nervous that I just wont be seeing him over the winter. Shoot! I get the feeling he likes me. I just have that feeling.
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Registered: 05-22-2003
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 10:42am
If you are not able/willing to ask him out on a date per say, you could casually ask him to join you on a more relaxed activity. The next time you are there, you could metion that there is a concert, play, movie you'd like to see. Then, if it seems he is interested, you could say "wanna go with and keep me company?"

The problem is, he may say no thanks. But the only way you will ever know, is to ask.

Good luck.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 11:45am
Since this is his place of business his personal reputation is part of what keeps bringing customers back. You could be the hottest woman on earth and I would still doubt that he would ask you out. I think you are going to have to initiate something to have a chance here.

Maybe you could go to Starbucks and buy 2 Lattes and take him one.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 12:10pm
Spiceman, You don't know how happy your post just made me. I was hoping there would be something that I hadnt thought of. I see your point about his business. But he still doesnt know my name or at least doesnt use it. I think he does have this professional persona, cause everyone is really comfortable with him, calling him by his first name. Anyway, thanks for the idea. Dont know if i have guts to buy him a latte, but it may give me ideas.

pen