Was he giving me hints?

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Registered: 04-15-2004
Was he giving me hints?
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 1:14pm
Hi everyone...A few days ago I went on a family trip to see a very distant (not blood related) relative for the first time. He's much older around 45-50, very affluent and is divorced. Before we left he came up to me and said to make sure I either email him or call him & come up there with my friends sometime so he can show us a good time. He's about 7 hrs away from me. He's going to Vegas next week and he wanted my friends & I to tag along. The next day that we called to thank him, he asked me again if I was gonna go to Vegas & meet him up there & to definitely visit him sometime. He also kept on telling me to email him w/ my phone number. Is he giving me hints that he wants to hook up or is this just a friendly gesture to say that he can hang out w/ people my age (23). Help! I won't email him if he's dropping hints.

Thanks~
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 3:31pm
Hm. He may be interested but if he was seriously interested, he would have asked you for your phone number directly. He might just want to hang out with some younger people. He may not think of himself as being "old" and is still young at heart. Its hard to say. You could take it as an offer of friendship of sorts, and then if he tries to make it something more, set your boundaries. (He sounds like a fun guy to me, especially if he likes to party in Vegas and he has $$$ to spend).
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 5:11pm
Who cares if he was dropping hints? He's certainly OLD enough to know how to ask a woman for her number or email address. But perhaps he was self-conscious... he might have been worried that you would think he was a pathetic, lecherous old GEEZER for asking a 23-year-old for her number. He might have kids older than you.

My BF is 48. His daughter is 23. He could not imagine dating one of his daughter's friends (yuck), or anyone her age.

But to each his own, I guess. I don't think you have anything to lose by emailing him, if that's what you want to do. Just be careful. A 50-year-old man might not be looking for the same kind of relationship you are.