Was I his rebound
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Was I his rebound
| Mon, 10-09-2006 - 8:06pm |
I met this guy who just got out of a 4 year relationship. I met him two months after it was over. We datted for a few months then he moved away for job offer that he had. We still kept in contact. A month after he left he asked me to move up with him. I thought about it and told him yes a week later. Two week after that he was different towards me, something was on his mind. He didnt know when he wanted me to move up. He didnt know if he really wanted to stay where he was. I asked him if he was having second thoughts and said yes. Now he dosent want to rush into anything serious. Asking me to move with me was serious to me. He said that he didnt think about it a whole lot before asking me. He want's to be alone because he has always hase been with someone since he was a teenager. Now in later 20's. He has never been alone. He did say that he likes me very much and do care about me. I asked if he met some other girl that was interested in and he no, there was no one. He wanted to be on his own to think what he wanted to do in his life,he always lived someone elses life. I do care about him but what I like to know if I could of been his rebound in the frist place? Why would he ask me to move with him then in a few weeks change his mind like that. What do this all mean?

Yes dear you were his rebound. You two enjoyed the few months that you dated and that's fine. However, him being 2 months out of a 4-year relationship should have told you "this guy is on the rebound". This is RED flag.
Four weeks after moving he asked you to move up there with him, but a week after he's had a change of heart, now he wants to be alone to sort of his thoughts and decided what he wants. Believe him and let him sort his thoughts and needs.
I'd leave it at that and cross it out as experience. Learn for this one and never get involved with a man who is separated, married, with tons of baggage, with an EX in the picture or early out of a relationship.
Oh man.....
Look, he jumped the gun, plain and simple.