Was it a date or not?
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Was it a date or not?
| Sat, 11-27-2004 - 7:40pm |
I have known this man for about 10 years, but have been getting closer to him for the last 8 months or so and now consider him a close friend. We do things together quite often since he is also a friend of my brother. I have been crazy about him for while, but I'm not sure if he feels the same way. Just recently, he came over to see my brother (who wasn't home) and ended up staying for a couple of hours, which is nothing unusual. However, when he started to leave he said he was going Christmas shopping that night and asked if I wanted to come along. I assumed it was because I am very familiar with one of the things he was buying, but when he bought my dinner I began to rethink that. Then, one of our mutual friends called while we were at the mall and started teasing him about us being out together. When he got off of the phone he said " I told Jack we had run off to get married. Actually, he asked if we were dating and I told him I didn't know." After this I wasn't sure what to say so I just laughed it off. Now I'm wondering if he thought of this as a date or really did just need me to help him shop?????
Edited 11/27/2004 7:42 pm ET ET by dweeby83
Edited 11/27/2004 7:42 pm ET ET by dweeby83

I think he's as unsure as you are and is wondering what you're thinking. If you're interested, why not let him know that you had fun that day and show him that you're interested in doing something else?
Hope this helps.
I see no reason to classify your outing as a date or not. It won't have any impact on the outcome or the future. What you had was a few hours where you enjoyed each other's company and did a few things together. You got to know each other a little more and most likely had a really good time doing so.
If you keep your focus on the positives of the time spent together it will be much more value to you. If you would like to date this man, or start to build a relationship withhim, I'd encourage you to let him know that is your desired goal. Do this with confidence and a positive attitude and I believe he will respond with the same.
At times I think this guy is flirting with me (like aiming wiffle balls at places other than my face), but I always convince myself otherwise. Although, he does bring up the subject of dating quite a bit. He even told me once that he would like to date someone younger than him (he is 15 years older than me).
I guess what it all boils down to is that good ol' fear of rejection. Also, will I lose him as a friend if I tell him how I feel?