we split but he still wants to see me

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Registered: 08-03-2004
we split but he still wants to see me
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 9:28pm
I had a relationshionship of a little over a year and we split recently.it was an awesome relationship. I was heartbroken and told him we couldnt see each other anymore. he says im his best friend and that we should still talk as friends. i told him i would give us one month to try this friendship thing and see if it works. and if it doesnt we can either not see each other anymore or try to make our relationship work. but we have had sex twice since then ( two weeks ) and we've kissed. i know its wrong . but i cant help it! i love him. help what should i do!


Edited 8/3/2004 9:41 pm ET ET by silenceof84
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 10:31pm
I have been where you are, and I know exactly how hard it is to give up your fantasy. Perhaps you'll do what I once did (gulp) and that is lose all my self respect until even HE didn't want to "come over" anymore. This is what your future holds for you if you don't get tough with him and with yourself. Dump him completely -- and that means absolutely no more contact, call blocking if necessary. Do whatever it takes. Then, do something for yourself to CELEBRATE! Get together with the gal pals, visit a family member, volunteer somewhere.

amjay45

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Registered: 08-08-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 1:35am
hey!

how are you?

i just thought id send a reply, seeing that i can TOTALLY relate to your message. my ex and i broke up about 2.5 months ago, and im STILL dealing with it now. hec, i JUST posted a msg myself...but yeah, i tried the friendship thing as well, and as much as i wanted him in my life, and as much as i wanted to be patient in hopes of rebuilding a relationship again - i just couldnt do it. id analyze what every move (or lack of) meant, id expect and hope and be dissapointed...until i just snapped and decided to put faith in myself instead. but its hard, and im still dealing so horribly right now - so it really is two tiered...break ups are sooo hard, as im learning now!

feel free to msg back - best wishes,

eeksj