Weird Dating Situation

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Registered: 12-11-2010
Weird Dating Situation
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 1:36am

This guy messages me and tells me he already is falling for me and likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend. We live in different states, and we don't even have much in common. PLUS he has a heart condition so I'd have to worry about him ending up in the ER all the time since he says he's dealt with this his whole life.

Then he tells me after chatting a while can I ask you personal questions? And here we go into the sex and sexual stuff. It's like come on dude really? My ex and I didn't even talk about that stuff unil 3-5 months way later. When we first started talking he never brought that stuff up at all.

So I just find this weird and everything.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 9:01am

It take two to tango.  If it feels weird or you feel comfortable, just tell him/change the subject/stop talking to him.  Why waste time on someone that you don't seem to be interested at all?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 11:32am

I agree--if you're not interested, you can stop messaging him.  I think there is a certain number of men who will tell you anything they think you want to hear when what they really want to do is just get into the sex talk.

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Registered: 09-11-2013
Fri, 09-27-2013 - 2:51pm
Take it at your own pace and if it gets too uncomfortable then ask him to slow down. If he is not willing to listen then perhaps you should move on. Good luck!