Weird..Bizzarre...Unreal!!!!

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Weird..Bizzarre...Unreal!!!!
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:02pm
some of you might remember me posting here a few months ago. i had told you about a crush on a girl here in my building where i work. now, what's important to note is the weird sequences of coincidences surrounding this girl and me. there were too many to go through again, but they were uncanny and surreal.

but, i did ask her out, went to lunch with her, but nothing ever came of it. i could tell that when we were out, she was acting uninterested from the get-go, it was almost like she was there for a formality, and that it was like i was getting 'lip-service'.

well, i came to find out that when we went out, she had already started to meet someone else and start dating him...which answered my question as to why she didn't seem like herself with me. and yes, she's still dating him.

ok, ok, ok....i tried, i did my part, i can sleep well knowing the 'what if' monster won't eat me. i put it in the rear view, contintued to go out with other girls, etc, etc. etc....and then came last night....

i met a girl on match. we exchanged a few emails, and decided to meet for a drink. we get to talking as to where i work, and i tell her. guess what? SHE'S GOOD FRIENDS WITH THIS GIRL!!!!!!!!! i turned white, had to excuse myself shortly thereafter to go to the bathroom to try to get it together. she has asked me if i ever went out with anyone from work, and i said no.

it's one thing to say that this is just another silly coincidence. but really, what are the odds? i don't live in a small city. i had put this thing behind me, and now it comes back again. what am i to take away from this?




Edited 6/23/2004 12:06 pm ET ET by growl1971

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:16pm
I've only been on this message board for a week, so I never read your first message. But, I did have a similar experience, at least I think it's similar. I met a guy on a different online dating service, started dating him, we were a perfect fit and were completely into each other. I made the mistke of going back into the dating service to check my mail, just out of complete curiosity. I got an email from a guy that lived in the same city as I did. I emailed him back, honestly just out of courtesy. The guy I'd been dating called me later that day to tell me that the guy I emailed has worked with him on a few occassions. The guy I was dating was a private investigator and this other guy was a lawyer. I was completely honest and told him that I only emailed him to be polite and for no other reason. He was very understanding about it and never made a big deal out of it. This was in California, millions of people, what are the odds?
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:18pm
Unless you've lied about anything you've done...you just take away the fact that no matter how large the world is - it's potentially a small place at some times, in some ways.

That's it. It just means that she's friends with this girl....so what.

I remember your posts...the girl liked your attention - you mistook that to mean "I like you" - along with you reading into situations lots of "indications" that were all projections and assumptions.

There is no reason to blanche and run off from this girl - just because she knows someone that you had a crush one, and had one lunch date with.

It's not fate or destiny that you're linked to your crush, either.

Erin

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