Well, it's Definate Now...

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Well, it's Definate Now...
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 3:26pm

I cant believe I did this, but I did… I let my anxiousness get the best of me and I got out of control and I think I pushed this guy away (that is if he wasn’t already "not interested" to begin with) because I've been so frustrated that I contacted him 2 more times. Crazy, I know, and I know now in hindsight that it was the wrong thing to do, but I cant go back and undo it and now I'm so upset over this. This first date seemed to go so well, he made a point of making clear what a good time he had, even called me after the date to reinforce that, and the fact that he wanted to see me again, how all of a sudden could he start ignoring me for no apparent reason?? (I know why he's ignoring me NOW, but before I sent him all the contacts I mean). Here's all the contacts today:

1. This morning I sent him a funny picture comment on myspace (we've been doing that every day). To this, he responded with a quick picture comment back and wrote "I hope you have a good day" under it.

2. For the past week or so he's been texting me non-stop all day, so I thought it would be ok to send him a text and I wrote "How's your day going? Slow day here, etc etc" - no response to that

3. Then I started getting frustrated and I waited a while and I sent him an email on myspace because I noticed that he's been on most of the day. My email said "I was just wondering, you said you were buzzed last night (he has 1 drink) so I just wanted to ask you again, did you have fun last night? I saw that he read it, but I got no response.

4. Then I was really upset and I waited a while longer and I sent him a text that said "should I take it that you're not really interested? Its ok, I just want to know". You guessed it. No response.

Guys, PLEASE PLEASE DON’T BEAT ME UP ON THIS. I do know that I was wrong in sending all those contacts and now I feel like such and idiot because of it, so any "beating up" responses here will make me feel even worse. I am definitely not sending anything else, don’t worry, but I just wanted to hear some opinions on this or if any of you have experienced anything similar?

Thanks
Jacki

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 3:47pm
Well, I cant believe this, but it turns out after all that, I JUST NOW got a missed call and it was from him. He then texted me and it said "Hi, no, dont take it that way, Sorry, I am having a really bad day dont take it personal". Now I REALLY feel like a complete idiot. This guy must think i'm a psycho. A lady at work said its good that I wasnt around to answer the phone call and that I shouldnt answer the text right away, that I should wait for him to contact me again so that he doesnt think i'm smothering him.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 4:15pm

I don't agree that you should *not* call him back right away and wait until he contacts you. I don't believe in playing games.

I think you should acknowledge his message and give him a VERY short but sweet apology, like "hey, no problem. Sorry for getting a little crazy. Bad day here too. ;)" And THEN let him contact you.

If he fails to contact you, then you'll see what kind of person he is. You already know that if he wants to talk to you, he WILL get in touch. So other than a quick apology, I would let him take the lead for a bit.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 5:20pm

I disagree that if he didn't contact her again after all the messages and then she sent a short and sweet one that it "shows what kind of person he is".

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 10:04pm
It is frustrating and we can all relate. You never know what's going on in someone's head or in his life. So obviously dont send any more contacts - email and texting is too easy - and what will be will be.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-19-2006 - 10:06pm
Yes I would wait for him to make the next move
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