We're talking about trying again
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| Tue, 04-13-2004 - 2:52pm |
We're talking about giving it another try after spending the last 2 and 1/2 months separated. I don't usually give second chances. I believe in them, but I know how hard relationships are and that history complicates things even more which always makes me skeptical when people get back together after breaking up. I figure that in 95% of cases, if two people couldn't work it out the first time, they won't be able to on the second or third either.
In our situation, he's a classic commitmentphobe, and so am I (I hate to admit it, but it's true). The feelings we have for each other caught us both by surprise. I am so afraid that I'm going to get hurt or that I'm going to hurt him, but I don't want to let this pass me by. I had so many second thoughts about breaking up with him, and I ignored them. Now, nearly three months later I know that he's been as regretful as I have about the whole thing, and wants to start over the right way.
I just wonder what the odds are at this working out. I know it's hard to give advice on something like this, but I'm looking for feedback on trying again from someone who's been there. Please share your stories.

Sheri
It's not just the regret. That's the most overwhelming emotion I feel when I think about how it ended. Perhaps that would explain the tone in my message.
Between the fear, regret and genuine desire my head is swimming right now, Sheri.
Edited 4/13/2004 3:09 pm ET ET by poisonivyprincess
Sheri
Why not give it a month or two and see what his behavior is like, if he lives up to what he says he's going to do?
Sheri
I kind of thought the same thing. Give it chance and see what happens. I just wanted to make sure I was still thinking straight about the whole thing.
Thanks a million, Sheri. :)
Ivy
georgiasugarbaby@yahoo.com
I totally believe in following your heart and finishing out what's not complete for you (if that makes sense).
So the magic word again--SLOW!
Good luck and keep us posted.
Thank you for your advice and kind wishes.
Ivy
georgiasugarbaby@yahoo.com