What the...?!

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Registered: 09-13-2005
What the...?!
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 5:20pm
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Registered: 08-26-2007
In reply to: sfgirl25
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 8:00pm

I'd like to give the guy kudos. He explained what his situation is and appears to have been honest about it. The whys and whats of their relationship is really none of your business now. I'm sure it hurts to be rejected like that but better he be upfront with you than to just disappear, which so many people do.

Get over it and move on.

LG
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Registered: 10-21-2004
In reply to: sfgirl25
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 8:59pm

The only thing about it that's 'lame' is that he sent you an email ... he could have still met up with your for lunch and told you in person.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
In reply to: sfgirl25
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 9:15pm

Uggghh ... what an awful email to get. Well, I agree with others that it's good he was honest instead of completely blowing you off. However, I think he could have at least told you this over the phone, instead of in an email, after dating you a month.


My other thought is, as much as it hurts, be glad this happened after only a month of dating him. You could have been six months or even a year into the relationship when he came out with "I'm still into my ex."


I might send a short email back: "thanks for telling me. good luck." And leave it at that.


I'm sorry things didn't work out here.


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Registered: 02-27-2007
In reply to: sfgirl25
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:04am

It sucks to get blown off, but his honesty goes a long way. We're not all perfect and guys can be a bit insensative but I'd say appreciate receiving THAT much and keep close the fact that he could have but did not blow you off without email, text or a phone call. You'll be over this soon enough! All the best,

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Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: sfgirl25
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:42am

It has to hurt knowing that during the last month you felt things were progressing well while he was still in a holding pattern over his ex.

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Registered: 06-08-2006
In reply to: sfgirl25
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 1:41pm

Let's bright side this for a minute. At least he told you the truth and didn't disappear without an explanation (although I think telling you in person would have been much better). And you only dated him for abut a month, so you didn't invest a ton of time only to find out he was still pining for his ex. Those are two really good things to hold onto as you move forward. Sorry you have to go through this though!

Hugs,
YG

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