What am i doing?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2012
What am i doing?
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 3:41pm

  Hello everyone,

         So i have been seeing this guy for a while, ( i met him online), When we first met in person we were instantly attracted to eachother, almost like an instant sexual chemistry. anyway our relationship (if i can even call it that) was just that sex. We actually took a break from eachother for a couple months, we begin to hook up again and now i am really having feelings for this man. We havent really had a sit down and talk about us talk. However the last  time i saw him he said he only wanted us to see eachother, in so many words, literally, he used alot of words. He basically said we would only sleep with eachother. He never used the word relationship or gave us any kind of title so really im a little confused as to what we are to eachother. I dont know if he is wanting to be in a relationship with me are just trying to hold me down until he decides one way or the other.  PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR FEEDBACK!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 4:14pm

When you get together, do you go on a date/do something first or is it just let's meet up late at night and immediately hop into bed and maybe if you're lucky, you'll watch a movie on TV?  If it's the 1st, you're in some kind of relationship (even if you aren't calling it that yet) that involves sex--if it's no. 2, you're just a booty call.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 06-19-2013 - 8:04pm

 Having a steady sex partner is very good.  Especially if you are not that attracted.   The issue here is to define what he is saying.  If he is interested in FWB or booty Call (BC)only.  On single or double terms ?  Can you call him for sex or is it only one way?  

   If that is so then what about the others you want to date and bed?  Any conflicts?   Boundaries need to be spoken out loud and realized.