What am I doing wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
What am I doing wrong?
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 8:15pm

I went out with this guy last night. I went out with him a month earlier. And before that, I went out with him a couple of times over a period of time. Anyway, our conversation got a little personal, but thats okay.

When he dropped me off, we got a little mushy so I cut off after a bit and said I better go. He seemed a little upset and kept asking why I was in such a hurry to go.

When I got upstairs, he called and asked the same question and that I seemed nervous. I said I was a bit and that I didn't want things to get out of hand and there was no need to rush things.

I just think going out twice, date spread a month apart, him dating others, and me not knowing how he really feels about me, should be reason enough to know why I didn't let things go further.

I'm guess I'm wondering if I'm sending out wrong signals and what else I'm doing wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:32pm
If you are interested and attracted but just want to take things slow and see each other, but perhaps on a little more regular basis you should let him know .
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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 11:54am
Do you think I should call him and talk to him about this? Some say its not necessary to call...But I want things to be clear...
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 3:50pm

Was this guy expecting sex? or was he trying to travel around the bases with you?

If so, you had every right to get away from him if this isn't what you wanted. Dating doesn't mean owing someone sex, or more time with them. If you are still interested in dating this man then go ahead and call him. You can tell him over the phone that you are interested in seeing more of him but you are not ready for sex or things to progress any further unless you know him much better.

If he can't handle that then it is his loss.