What am I to him

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Registered: 12-03-2004
What am I to him
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 10:59pm
OK so here I go. I have been seeing this great guy for almost 2 months now. He asked me awhile ago if I was all his and I said yes, I asked him are you all mine and he said yes. We talk everynight on the phone and have been together 4 times (live in diff cities). We get along good and every time we are together he asked are ya all mine girl. Now I wonna ask him what he really meant when he said that was he talking sexual or everything. Friends tell me to ask him, but I am so nervouse to. Am I his gf or just bed buddie..
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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 8:55am

glogirl36...

Aside from sharing the same bed (Pianoguy assumes that you have), what else do the two of you do as a couple? Granted...you talk on the phone together...but aside from passion and conversation, what are the other 'activities' two of you "share" together?

If you can't think of anything aside from chatting and a little sex...you already have your answer concerning the status of your relationship.

Pianoguy

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Sat, 12-04-2004 - 11:33am

There is no substitute for asking him. I am in an LDR also, and would not have gotten involved with him if we hadn't discussed and agreed early on what type of r'ship we were both looking for (not necessarily with each other at that early point, just in general). You owe it to yourself to ask what type of r'ship he's looking for, and make sure it's compatible with your r'ship goals.

I would also want to know that we were exclusive (not dating other people) and monogamous (not sleeping with other people). A vague question/statement about being "all yours" or "all mine" would not be sufficient, IMO.

And being afraid to talk to someone you're dating is NOT a good sign! When are you seeing each other again? It's best to discuss those types of things in person, so perhaps waiting until your next visit is a good idea.

Sheri

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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 9:32am
Thanks for the input for those who answered. I have been really thinking about what is going on with me and this guy. I told him what I feel and he took it all good, but I am still not sure what he thinks. And this "your all mine" stuff is him wanting me where he has me. I am moving on...