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What are we?
| Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:33pm |
(I also posted this in the understanding the opposite sex message board)
I've been dating this guy for almost two months. We haven't had the talk yet, but he and I aren't seeing other people. Things seem like they're going pretty well, but the longer this relationship lasts, the more confused I get. I really have no idea what the status of our relationship is. First of all, we're only seeing each other but he hasn't even mentioned anything about me being his girlfriend. Most people would say that I'm not since we haven't had the talk, but he's already introduced me to his parents. We met with them for dinner just a little over a month after we started dating. Second, he's really open to me about personal things. We haven't really talked about our past relationships in great detail, but he's really open with me about almost everything else. I think I'm patient enough to wait for him to say something, but the thing is that I was the one to ask him out first. A good friend of mine made the first move with a guy (whom she ended up marrying) and she was the one who had to bring up the subject of defining their relationship. So with that in mind, I'm wondering if I have to be the first to bring up that subject. And if he doesn't say anything anytime soon, how long should I wait until I bring it up?
I've been dating this guy for almost two months. We haven't had the talk yet, but he and I aren't seeing other people. Things seem like they're going pretty well, but the longer this relationship lasts, the more confused I get. I really have no idea what the status of our relationship is. First of all, we're only seeing each other but he hasn't even mentioned anything about me being his girlfriend. Most people would say that I'm not since we haven't had the talk, but he's already introduced me to his parents. We met with them for dinner just a little over a month after we started dating. Second, he's really open to me about personal things. We haven't really talked about our past relationships in great detail, but he's really open with me about almost everything else. I think I'm patient enough to wait for him to say something, but the thing is that I was the one to ask him out first. A good friend of mine made the first move with a guy (whom she ended up marrying) and she was the one who had to bring up the subject of defining their relationship. So with that in mind, I'm wondering if I have to be the first to bring up that subject. And if he doesn't say anything anytime soon, how long should I wait until I bring it up?
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| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 9:26am |
I've never had to bring it up with anyone I've been in a long term serious relationship with but I have brought it up when it comes to sex since I will not have sex outside of an exclusive relationship. I would assume you are not exclusive - meaning if he wants to date someone else he can. I have been introduced to parents and friends before being exclusive - for your own protection I would not assume anything.
| Sun, 03-28-2004 - 10:15am |
Are you being sexually intimate with him? I think it's backwards when people sleep around and then wonder where it's giong and what their status is...you've supposed to have status and know these things before you get intimate with someone. Ask him.
