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What are yours?
| Sun, 08-14-2005 - 1:28pm |
Curious to read about people's dealbreakers... what are the things you absolutely will not stand for in a potential mate?
For me, a guy who thinks reading is stupid, treats other meanly or earns his money in an illegal manner are definitely deal breakers... Then you have the little things like if he slurps his food and has no table manners, I don't usually stick around.
So what are yours? :)




Oh boy, do I have a list!.......
* Someone who is wishy-washy -- where his actions and words do not match up.
* Someone who doesn't know himself well --- what he wants, doesn't want.
* Someone who you have to play guessing games with because he has the inability to be straightforward.
* Someone who is lazy or not very goal-oriented-- (one who doesn't value hard work/education).
* A man who is very self absorbed or selfish and doesn't consider the feelings of others.
* A man who is extremely cheap (and I am just talking in very basic ways).
* Lying and Cheating go hand in hand.... If a man is good at doing one, he is probably good at doing the other.... I don't know?
* Someone who is still in the partying with the boys at bars EVERY night/weekend scene where drinking day in and out is a must.
* Someone who is closeminded, judgemental, or easily rude towards other people.
* Someone who doesn't think to include his significant other in important events, or with important people in his life.
* A man that can't pick up after himself and expects you to do it (i.e., slob).
* A man that doesn't value the importance of family or relationships in his life.
* A materialistic man...
* A man that is not flexible towards different situations.
* Drugs.
* Poor hygiene or terrible manners.
~~SD~~ :-)
shattereddestiny...
WOW!!!! You really 'nailed' practically every male flaw in the book! Pianoguy thinks you're on target with many of 'em, but in the case of "not knowing what he wants"---this is a trait that could also be applied to a woman! Ditto...the occasional "night out with the guys!" Some women like to hang out (aka 'all-day shopping marathons') with other women. Sooo...cutting a guy a little slack with his male buddies isn't necessarily a bad idea...assuming he's not replacing you by "spending too much free time with the guys?"
Having checked your limited ivillage profile, I wish you had completed the other 2 sections? However...and I'm speaking solely from 'the male side'...I think you can GET many of the requests you've suggested....depending upon whether your approach (to a man) is that of a LOVING GIRLFRIEND OR SPOUSE...as opposed to REACTING AND BEHAVING LIKE OUR MOM might?
Pianoguy
Hm...
The points everyone has mentioned are surely noteworthy and would sure irritate me,
but i think that if the guy is really interested in creating a nice, peaceful, pleasant relationship, he would be willing to talk things out and correct/modify some of the things that are really bothering her. i can deal with poor hygiene(did i spell it right), bad table manners, or even not knowing what he wants. I don't expect him to be perfect.
Some skills can be taught/re-learned.
for me, if he does not treat me well from the get-go, it is a sure-fire dealbreaker.
for example, raising a hand on me(ONCE is enough), continually putting me down and discouraging me, openly flirting and eyeing other girls, cheating...not once, but twice.
being caught lying several times is sure to make me lose trust in him forever.
getting into fights about little things on a regular basis will make me RUN.
him not trusting me, asking me a million questions about anything i do or dont do...(a controlling nature) will make me run too.
can't think of anything else right now...but am sure there are several other things that are dealbreakers!