What is the biggest problem...

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What is the biggest problem...
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Mon, 12-20-2004 - 11:23pm
What is the biggest problem you have in a relationship?

 

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 11:31pm

My boyfriend is awful at remembering bithdays, and he also forgot our first anniversary (this past August). He also goes through periods where he is completely emotionally unavailable. That pretty much sums up every problem that I have in my current relationship.

In the past, most of my boyfriends have been a little too clingy for my tastes.

Ivy

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 12:18am
ok... I'm going to assume that his emotional availability is more of a concern than remembering special occasions...

 
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Registered: 10-04-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 8:52am

Because I'm in a new relationship, (3 weeks, woohoo!) I think the first few months of a new relationship is the hardest for me. With the initial trying to impress the other person and deciding whether you're attracted to them, then deciding if you're both interested and want to pursue a relationship, and finally just becoming comfortable with that person on all levels, and getting to know them as a person.

So if I can make it through the first 3-6 months with someone, I can pretty much handle anything in the relationship. I'm not a jealous person, pretty trusting until they prove otherwise, and I don't get worked up over little stuff, like toilet seats, lol!

-Nikki

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Registered: 12-02-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 10:07am
My biggest problem has always been holding on too tight. I lose sight of myself and focus only on my SO. I get jealous and have a major fear that they will find someone else and leave me. Now that I have been single for a little while, I have learned to work on this and that I HAVE to change this. I can't let fear control my life anymore, just go with the flow and things will be how they were meant to be.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 10:24am
Hey italiangirl!

 
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 11:26am
During my last relationship my x-SO asked me "why is it that when we are alone I (me) am so affectionate and cuddley, hand-holding and loving, but when we are in public my P.D.A. are few and far between?" My answer was that because I wasn't use to a woman always wanting to hold me in public it was taking me awhile to warm up to the P.D.A.'s.
Unfortunately by the time I was realling getting comfortable giving P.D.A.'s she left me. I'm hoping this wasn't part of the reason why.
Another thing was using her bathroom after something didn't agree with me too well like Ben Stiller in "Along came Polly." She went as far as to buy some "OUST" spray for me. This was one of the little things that made me fall so deeply in love with her...which I still am.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 12:50pm
Hello nikki, welcome to the board!

 
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 1:18pm
Hello seve!

 
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 1:56pm
It makes all the sense in the world and yes...she is a good woman.
Thanks
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 2:22pm
I hope it helps... and, remember, it's never too late...

 

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