What did he mean?
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What did he mean?
| Sat, 03-20-2004 - 2:24pm |
I really need some advice but i dont know if this is the right place and im sorry if this is to long. I met a guy in a bar last month and we kind of clicked so i went back to his, and i have never done that before. We ended up in bed but didn't actually have sex but as i was getting changed to leave he told me he wanted to sleep with me and as i was waiting for the cab by the door he told me that i should just drop by to his again one day. I left thinking it was just a polite way of saying it was fun but thats it because he was way out of my league.
However telling my friend this story she thought it was his way of asking to see me again without actually having to do it. I'm really confused. I know he is too good for me but what she said has kind of got me thinking. We both go to the same bar but on different days but i've been thinking of going back to see if theres another chance. I don't want to make a fool of myself. Do you think my friend is right or should i just leave it.

And - out of your league? a man who hangs out in a bar regularly and will go home with a stranger is out of your league? Why? And if you thought so, why would you sleep in the same bed with him and consider seeing him again if you're not going to feel comfortable?
here's my advice - if you go to that bar more than once or twice a month it's too much - find an activity where you will meet people who have the same interest as yours and who do more than hang out in bars and hit on people.
I feel stupid saying this but as you won't ever meet me...I cut myself and usually i cover it up pretty well. He clocked my scars somehow and didn't freak out at me. He just put his arm around me. He didn't call me names or tell me i was grateful to have anyone interested in me. He told me i was beautiful and i felt like i believed him.
Now for the bar thing i go there anyway with my mates because its a laugh, with a good atmosphere (i.e no bitchy women or poser men). Most of the men who go there are interested in the same things as me (like rugby and boxing). I don't want to change the bar just the night and just the once. Sounds like i've made up my mind what im going to do.
you should never be with someone sexually when you are so down on yourself - it may feel good for the moment but unless that person truly loves and cares for you you will feel even worse about yourself after.