what to do...

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Registered: 12-13-2005
what to do...
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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 12:09pm
In may my girlfriend, of close to 4 years, broke up with me. its been close to 7 months and i hadnt met anyone new, and neither had she, but i met some one a little more than a week ago, and really like this new girl, but in the meantime a couple weeks before my ex told me she wants to get back together, i still love her, but i also like the new girl. I dont know weather to get back together with my ex, or see how stuff works out with the new one.
i dont want to hurt anyone, and i told my ex this but she is still being persistant, i dont want to ruin my friendship with either of them.
thankful for any help i can get
-some confused guy
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 5:01pm

Question for you:


What did you and your ex learn from your relationship and your breakup?

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 6:23pm

Ah, there seems to be an epidemic of this going around.

I'm in a similar situation, but I am one of the two girls my ex is "confused" about.

Let me tell you, it's hard on everyone. And when I say hard I mean very painful. He is torn between an old friend, whom he dated, and me. He loves us both, but he isn't sure "where to go," so to speak. The suspsense is killing me. Not to mention, the other girl. We are both aware of what's going on (he isn't dating either of us right now). But according to him, *I* am who he wants (wanted, perhaps) until she came back into the picture, begging to get back together with him.

So, yes, this sucks. Suck for everyone involved. My only advice is be HONEST about what's going on ...with BOTH women. You have to. It's the right thing to do and you'll feel better about yourself. My ex is being honest and open, but he is way too torn/confused to handle right now, and I hate it. I love him, though, and I'm trying to be patient with his "processing things" (his words).

I hope this helps. Honest and open communication are the only two things you need to have right now. Feelings for one? Both? I don't know, that's up to you.

Let me know how it goes. I don't mind a guy's perspective of all of this.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 7:04pm
Hon, you have to decide who you want to be with. Do you see things getting better with your EX this time around? Why did you two break up? Do you think that in 7 months the stuff you broke up over is different or better? Do you see things progressing nicely with the new girl? All those answers will give you YOUR answer.
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Registered: 12-13-2005
Tue, 11-28-2006 - 1:40am
we broke up because i live a hour and a half away, and she didnt like the distance,plus, she thought she liked someone else, and i loved her enough to let her go and figure these things out. i still live the distance away, but she has realized that i am what she wants, which is why i dont know what to do... oh well, thanks for your input :-)