What to do

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Registered: 02-01-2006
What to do
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Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:35pm

Hey everyone,

I need some advice. There's a guy on my floor (I live in a college dorm) that I'm very attracted to... we've talked a little bit at floor meetings but never really exchanged contact information or anything like that. I really would like to get to know him better, but I only ever see him at floor meetings and those only happen once a month (most recent just tonight, so not another until April! SO LONG!). What can I do to express my interest in him and break that barrier? I could send him a message on this website called Facebook, college students use it a lot, I could "friend him", but I'm not sure how he'd take that. I could slip him a note under his door, but that's kind of elementary. I'm really not sure what to do. I see him sometimes outside the dorm but never alone, never in a situation where I would feel comfortable talking to him. What should I DO! I don't want this to slip by!

-Kristi

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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: kristimesh
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 8:57am

A couple of thoughts: you could knock on his door and either ask for help with something in your room or ask him if has experience with a teacher/class you're thinking about taking next semester or a copy of a movie you really want to see. Or, the next time you're at a floor meeting, you could try to sit next to him and strike up a conversation.

I lived on a coed dorm floor too, and pretty much everyone hung out in the hallways, had their doors open. Is yours the same way? Perhaps someone (or you!) will have a party/get-together in one of the rooms, and you will both be there.

When you see him out, even if he's with friends, make sure you look at him and give him a big smile.

Good luck!

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Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: kristimesh
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:15am
Jumping onto ioveranalyze's idea... why not have a party in your room and invite him along with others? :o)
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: kristimesh
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:51am
I know that at least at my school, people friend each other on facebook and they dont necessarily know each other, except in passing. I think it would be a great way to express interest to him and once he accepts your friend-request, you may want to leave him a message. This way you can also see what clubs he is associated with at your schools and what his interests are and IF he has a girlfriend. I think friending him on facebook is a great idea. Good luck.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: kristimesh
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 1:53pm
Yes you can friend him, something casual, perhaps he make a joke or comment at the meeting youparticularly got a kick out of,that way you're flattering him but not in a i'd like to jump your bones sort of way. So little risk and potentially large gain
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