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| Fri, 01-20-2006 - 11:53pm |
Ok, I know what I want to do, but I want to know what the "dating experts" think I should do. There's this guy(of course there is!) whom I met two months ago at college youthgroup. We hit it off immediately and ended up having an hour or so long conversation after the message was over,(which was surprising for me since I've never been able to connect with a guy that well.) Anyways, a couple of weeks go by and I see him again on a Sunday morning and after the service a few of our mutual friends get together and we all end up going out to lunch. The entire time we were always together, sitting next to each other, walking with each other...you get the point. He even offered to give me a ride in case I needed one and he also offered me a hand down a steep muddy ditch.
Fast forward a couple weeks and I haven't seen him at church or anywhere else for that matter. I was beginning to wonder "Am I ever going to see him again?" The only way to get in contact with him was through my good mutual friend, who I also hadn't seen in a few weeks. Here's the climax: School just started this week and my second day back, here walks in the classroom my good girlfriend who I haven't seen for awhile and she comes bearing good news: The guy I had been missing apparently has been missing me also because he text-messaged my friend asking her for my number. I was ecstatic! But now since my girlfriend has told me this exciting news, I'm pinning all my hopes on his call. I even called her today reminding her to give him my number, and she said she did and asked me if I would like her to call him and just casually remind him to call me. But then that would look like I know he wanted my number and that I'm expecting a call from him..so he might think now he HAS to call me to ask me out. The thing is, I don't even know why he wanted my number in the first place, it couldn't be for anything else other than asking me out, could it be?
Sorry if I sound like a total and complete shmuck, but I don't know how to read guys intentions...this would be my first real relationship if anything serious happened.

You don't know why he wanted your number and neither do I. He asked for your number, he got your number. He hasn't called so there isn't much you can do.
Perhaps this is a lesson for next time. When this type of situation happens ask for their number and make that call yourself.
Hi, your story is very cute.
Hi again-
Out of all the responses I've gotten, yours was the most encouraging. So thanks, sandradee, for telling me what I probably should have known in the first place. I was a bit bemused by the first person's response to my post, it was kind of like they were striking me on the back of my hand for posing the possiblity that he might call to ask me out. I understand completely ,though, how this guy feels for asking our mutual friend for my number and then scrounging up the guts to actually go through with calling me. We haven't even seen each other in a few weeks, and even then, we had only encountered each other twice-once at youthgroup and once on a Sunday afternoon. I'm trying my best not to sit idly by the phone, waiting for him to call, but I've become addicted to checking my phone for any missed calls;-)
Thanks for your advice!
God bless~