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| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 12:06pm |
hi all,
i've been dating this guy for 6 mths now. on our first date he asked me to marry him, thanksgiving he asked me to marry him but he hasn't mentioned it this year yet. so, now he wants to move in together and have a baby. we're both in our mid 20's, live on our own, and have stable jobs. however, i haven't met his parents yet.
would you take his words/actions seriously even though you haven't met his parents?
thanks,
ravishing.

I cannot imagining someone deciding to get married to the person right after a first date. That to me, doesn't sound right, however attracted he was to you, and however much of a "positive" feeling he got at the time. Proceed rationally. Marriage is a very important decision. Even if his feelings are genuine now, i.e after 6 months of dating, I would not be taking it THIS fast. Refrain from moving in with him, is what my advise is. Pay attention to his actions, date him more but DONT YET move in. Do you really feel he cares about you, is dependable, and genuinely loves you? I feel you have more time to gauge all of that. Don't be in a hurry. If he really does love you and has long term plans with you, he will be patient. Is he keen on introducing you to his parents? If both feel ready to do that, then meet the parents. It's a good sign.