What to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2005
What to do?
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 5:08pm
I could use anyones advice. I work with this really cute, sweet girl. I had been making many attempts to try to talk to her, well I finally succeeded. I was asking her about work and her life and everything and I asked her a particular question when she just got really quiet. I wasn't sure of what to do, I thought I had said something wrong. Well, it looks like she going through a really hard time. One of her parents was recently diagnoised with a terminal illness and is having it rough. She descibed how hard its been for her family and her and I just stood there stunned. I didnt realized how hard her life has been. Well, I had thoughts of asking her out, but under the circumstances I don't know if it seems appropriate. I don't know what to do, she seemed really sweet when I talked to her. I didnt know what to say but that I was sorry to hear what was happening. I don't know if she even wants to date right now? Do I just lay low? I don't know if I should try to be a friend, but then I'm worried she will only see me as that? I'm confused as to how to approach this. Any thoughts?
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Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: garpa
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 6:08pm

Whoa.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
In reply to: garpa
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 6:18pm
Definitely be a friend. Let her know you are there, incase she needs anything. Whether or not she would be interested in dating also depends on how comfortable she feels with you. You could get to know her in the office itself. Her response should let you know if she is interested in a friendship as well. Don't worry about her perceiving that you are only interested in a friendship. If things are to happen between two interacting people, they will. That's what I think.
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Registered: 11-16-2005
In reply to: garpa
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 7:17pm
Thank you both for you advice, much appreciated.