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| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 1:07pm |
Ok so my boyfriend and I had the talk about where the relationship is going, I know I know, I committed the ultimate sin but I had to know. Anyways here goes.
When we first met, we talked about moving in together, at first I was scared about the committment thing but few months later I asked him about it. I said that I wanted to do it. TO my suprise, he told me that he was scared too and he thought is this it? DOes it mean marriage? My initial feeling was that he didn't want to be with me.
Then we had the relationship talk, where it was go and so on. Since he's still in college, and I graduated, he said that he cannot lead the relationship. His comment was that he felt I wanted to settle down and although he did too, he couldn't right now because of his priorities. These days, things are going well but I feel that we both don't know where this is going. Am I being to analytical? Should I chill out and just see how it goes? What should I make of this?

"These days, things are going well but I feel that we both don't know where this is going."
Since you've talked numerous times about where it's going and both stated your views on it, you both DO know where it's going. If you're talking about where it will end up in the future, well, nobody can predict that for you (or for themselves either). He has different priorities for himself than you do for yourself, at this point in your lives, b/c you're at different points in your life right now. Accept that and enjoy it for what it is...or move on. You know the score here. Now you just have to decide if it's the relationship you're looking for or not AS IT IS. Don't base your decision on it's future potential b/c again, nobody can predict that. Base it on the present and the now. If it's going well, try to figure out what's bothering you. Something is, or you wouldn't be here asking for advice. And where's the fire? Why would you move in with someone right after meeting them? Doesn't sound like an emtionally healthy decision to me. Probably why you both felt "scared" about it...your gut instincts were telling you *unwise choice* and rightly so.