What to do

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Registered: 09-14-2004
What to do
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:08pm
For the past couple of months, I have liked this man who I have known for my entire life practically. Everytime we see each other, our friendship seems to go to the next step. We flirt constantly, but nothing ever comes of it. I am too afraid that the feelings aren't mutal to say anything. Recently, I have started to see another guy, a nice guy who actually really likes me. But I cannot stop thinking of my "friend" who I never got a chance to even date. I feel as if I start to date this other man I will lose my chance with my "friend", if I even have a chance with him. What should I do? Should I just ask him if there is anything between us and possibly risk ruining our friendship or wait for him to come around and continue dating this other man possibly rejecting him in the end if my "friend" ever comes around?
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Registered: 09-14-2004
In reply to: danielle621
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 10:02pm
You have to come out and ask your friend whether or not you think anything could happen between you. Of course, you can camoflogue the question with a joke if necessary. Or try to make the question off-hand... as if you just thought of it. A comfortable setting would be best to try this at. By guaging his reaction you can either continue with the conversation or move on to another topic. Whateve you do DO NOT break-up with the new man you are dating until you are sure of how you want to pursue the relationship with your "friend". You wouldn't want to ruin your chance at two seperate relationships at once.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: danielle621
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 12:33pm
Get your head out of the clouds and enjoy the man you are with and quit dreaming about the grass in the other yard. If nothing has happened up to this point, nothing probably ever will. You've known him for a long time, and you've been flirty with him, so I'm sure he has an idea that you're interested. If he hasn't tried anything with you, chances are he isn't feeling the same way about you.

Alison

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