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| Tue, 08-31-2004 - 9:43am |
I am trying to resolve an issue... My boyfriend is currently giving me the silent treatment. The other day we were talking and I said, 'FYI... oh, well nevermind' and did not continue my thought. He got upset with me. I know I have a bad habit of this, but if I feel I don't want to tell someone something then I don't. I told him not to worry about it but he got upset and said 'well now you have started our first fight.' I was not arguing or trying start a situation. I just did not feel that what I was going to say needed to be said. Well now, he is not talking to me because of this. It began Sunday night and he has said possibly all of a word to me and it is Tuesday morning. I wrote a letter this morning asking if we can discuss this tonight. Is there something that I am missing on why he is so upset? Please help! Thank you

You're thinking this is such a trivial thing and his reaction is way out of proportion to the offense. And it would be if it was a one time thing, or if you told him that you instantly realized that the comment you were about to make was really dumb. Everyone does that on occasion. But you said you do this habitually, and his reaction is to give you the silent treatment as you've been doing to him all along. You need to break this habit. Either finish what you start to say or don't start. When you talk to him, tell him you now realize how annoying this habit is and that you won't do it again.