What to do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2004
What to do?
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 4:12pm
I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past 4 years and it has been nothing but problems. He cheated on me in the second year and then when I started seeing someone else he wanted to mend the relationship. I keep giving him a chance and he ends up cheating or leaving and then wanting to come back. Now that I tell him that I do not want to give him another chance he forces the issue of "starting over".I have recently starting seeing another guy that I have known for about 4 months and he takes me out and treats me the way I knew I always deserved to be treated, I really want to give the new guy a chance but the ex will not leave me alone and says he will never leave. I dont know how to get him out of my life and it is really dragging me down.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 5:42pm
Change your number, tell him to stop bothering you. If he continues to bother you after you ask him to stop then that is LEGAL HARRASSMENT and you can press charges.

Continue seeing your new wonderful man and don't give the ex the time of day. If he calls, hang up, if he shows up at your house, don't answer the door. If he shows up at your work, ask someone to excort him out.

It will take a while for him to understand that you are serious THIS time because you've always given in and gone back to him in the past. Stick to your guns!

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Registered: 08-13-2004
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 6:18pm
Thank You for the great advice, I know that I have a new wonderful man because he is aware of my situation and always asks if he is pressuring me in any way and offers endless support, he also admits that this is a choice that needs to be made by myself and although we have only known each other for a few months, he lets me know how much he cares! I fully understand that I need to take action soon before I lose a good thing!
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 8:15am

For one thing, never allow yourself to be dragged down by that man again.

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