what to do?

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Registered: 07-22-2004
what to do?
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 12:40pm
ok, i have been dating him for 2.5 months now. a little bit of background here... we went out twice a year ago. now its quite intense... he has been affectionate and everything. however, i went out of country for 2 weeks - came back on sunday. emailed him yesterday if he could meet today - no response yet... he seems to have been busy at work yesterday and traveling rest of week. also, his parents are visting him (from abroad) until end of this month. i feel sad and rejected for not hearing from him, because:

1. he is one of the few men (if not only one) that i have felt so connected with - from his gestures it seems he likes me (very thoughtful, considerate, sensitive, etc.)

2. he's bohemian in character - only trait i hate about him is he disappeared without a sign the last time we dated, but nothing was serious. i told him that i dont think its a good idea for us to date this time, as he did that... he explained the reason (was in an on off relation then and went back to gf). so i feel scared that he might hurt me again and this time, due to more involvement, i will be really hurt. fyi, he mentioned he didnt see his ex gf of 6 months for 2 months while they were in the relation (this was a part of our long talk about past, so there was a different context)... this makes me feel that he is bohemian indeed.

i plan to give him some time before i tried calling him (maybe a few more days). what do you think you would've done if you were in my place to mitigate this? thanks.

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Registered: 07-20-2004
In reply to: namu8
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 3:57pm
i don't consider being concerned and wanting to know whats going on a problem. If you have been intimate and all, i think you reserve the right to call him and discuss your reservations. Call him, for your sanity!!!
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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: namu8
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 4:54pm
I wouldn't call him or email him anymore. I would wait for him to initiate contact. It seems you have already determined that you like him and want to still see him. However, you should be asking yourself if he feels the same way.

If he is Bohemian, he may be a free spirit who isn't ready to settle down anyway.