what to do about a workplace crush

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Registered: 07-28-2004
what to do about a workplace crush
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 1:35am
Here's the deal: I've been working with this guy for about two years and have liked him on and off during this time. I'm planning on leaving this job soon because I'm getting fed up with the management. However, I still like this guy a lot and I feel like I need some closure. I'm not sure if he likes me or has ever or if he knows that I like him. It seems as though if he did he would ask me out right? He has complimented me before but that was a while ago. What should I do? I sorta just feel like asking him if he knew I used to like him. I don't really want to ask him out or anything because I'm scared of rejection or any weird circumstances.

Help!
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anonymous user
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 8:13am
I guess if it's that important to you, you can ask him out. Otherwise I agree with your theory in that if he liked you, he would ask you first.

However, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Since you're leaving, take a chance. If it doesn't work out, you'll never have to see him again.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 12:02pm
I wouldn't ask him if he KNEW you liked him. That seems kind of pointless, and sets you up for worse rejection if he says, "yeah, I knew." If you want to get to know him, invite him for coffee before you leave the office. The first step is talking to him, so asking his input on something, asking him to join you for coffee or even inviting him to meet up with some other co-workers for a drink after work or something all gets your foot in the door.

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