What do i do??

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Registered: 07-28-2004
What do i do??
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Wed, 07-28-2004 - 9:26pm
OK....so here is the issue....i made a mistake and broke up with a guy that i was madly in love with when i went to school and he joined the navy.....well..he started dating someone and i did about 3 months after he did....well this new guy and i were friends before and we just arent the same as we were when we were friends...now this ex says that he still loves me and that i need to persue him if i want something...only one issue....my current bf is in bootcamp and i cant get ahold of him while he is there....and my ex is coming to town and i want to get back with him....how do i break up with my bf now without totally losing his friendship and how do i persue my ex???? please help me!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ktumc
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 7:50am
ktumc...

One question...which of the 2 men is going to be hurt the worst when you make your choice?

Is your renewed interest (and subsequent pursuit) of the EX worth dumping the guy in boot camp? And just for kicks...what happens if the EX decided to "dump you"---does that mean you'd want to switch back to the soldier who is love with you now?

Do you HONESTLY think he would want to be 'just friends' after getting the news that you went back to your old boyfriend? Give this some serious thought...PLEASE!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: ktumc
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 1:23pm
I'm going to have to agree with Pianoguy. Why would this guy want to be friends with you after you dump him while he's away? You should at least have the courtesy and respect to do it face to face. And this ex of yours, he said that you would have to PURSUE HIM?? HUH???? Why, so he can laugh at you when you dump this other guy and call him? He hasn't said to you that he wants to get back together with you- no, just that he wants to see how well he can use you as a puppet. He's calling the shots- and you want to let him? So when he dumps you or doesn't get back together with you, you going to try to get back with the guy at boot camp? Tell him you made a mistake, would he take you back? You broke up with your ex for a reason, try to think why that was.

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