What Do I Do In Case......

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Registered: 11-20-2004
What Do I Do In Case......
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 9:14pm
I had been seeing my bf for 14 months when he vanished.I found out on my own that he moved back in with his ex!It has been a month since I saw and talked to him last.It's odd.That last time I saw him (on November 1) everything seemed fine.We were to meet at a restaurant( on November 3) for lunch.I went but he never showed up,never called.He just vanished.I later discovered he moved in with his ex.Needless to say,I was devastated.The first few days I was numb with shock and sorrow.Those 14 months were happy.We did not fight and we became close.How could he do this to me?? I proved time and again I loved and cared for him and I was sure he felt the same way about me.We even talked of getting married.He is 17 years older than me-but he is the same age as his ex.I wondered if he prefered her because they were the same age.Because one day he told me: "I don't know if I will be able to satisfy you sexually years down the road.I am much older than you." He and his ex live only 15 miles from me.Of course I have not and won't be making any contact w/him.Chances are good I may bump into him sooner or later.I will feel awkward and he should feel ashamed for running back to his ex without telling me.I mean he should have at LEAST called and told me what his plans were.I'm an adult.I would have said "Fine.If that is how you feel...But remember,I'll never stop loving you." True.I STILL love him despite the way he did.Of course I would not take him back mostly because I will never trust him again.Partly because the thought of him living with and having sex with another woman.My question is: How should I react if I bump into him? Freindly?Like I don't know him?What do you think would be appropriate?What should I say,if anything?Thank you all for taking the time to read this and respond.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 12-03-2004 - 9:55pm
Hello usagal, welcome to the board!