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What do i do next?
| Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:21am |
There's someone that I like that i work with, he so far seems really nice but i've heard that he is scared of relationships due to getting hurt badly in the past. I have seen him out of work and he gave me a rose.. but bear in mind that he had had quite alot to drink that nite as we were at a club. I'm not totally sure but i think he knows that i like him.
Anyway yesterday i was stood outside my reception door and saw him looking through the window, he sort of glanced around as he was walking past, i am the only one that works in reception so i assume that he was looking for me, or would that be getting my hopes up?.He also says hello when he walks past, but hasn't really said much else. My question is what do i do next?? He is very shy and so am i, i would say one of my biggest fears also is rejection. I am too scared to tell this guy that i like him, also we have to work together so if he tells other people here that i asked him out and he said no i think it would be a bit embarrassing for me. Also i have never been in in this situation before, i have only ever beein in 2 relationships and both was instigated by the other person on the day that i met them. Need advice.. any suggestions?
Anyway yesterday i was stood outside my reception door and saw him looking through the window, he sort of glanced around as he was walking past, i am the only one that works in reception so i assume that he was looking for me, or would that be getting my hopes up?.He also says hello when he walks past, but hasn't really said much else. My question is what do i do next?? He is very shy and so am i, i would say one of my biggest fears also is rejection. I am too scared to tell this guy that i like him, also we have to work together so if he tells other people here that i asked him out and he said no i think it would be a bit embarrassing for me. Also i have never been in in this situation before, i have only ever beein in 2 relationships and both was instigated by the other person on the day that i met them. Need advice.. any suggestions?

To the original poster, I think smiling, being friendly and approachable will let him see that you are a friendly person to come up and talk to.
Take your time, have a little patience and see what develops. Who knows, you two could become the best of friends if nothing more.
Just take your time, be friendly talk to him and smile, smile, smile.
I have learned that patience is the best quality to have in this type of situation. I'm kind of old fashioned in that I don't believe that the woman should approach a guy. If he's moving kind of slowly, maybe he's just trying to feel you out; maybe he isn't sure about how you feel; maybe he isn't looking for anyone now. It could be a number of things. I'd say that you should continue to be really friendly, smile, always look great, and never seem too eager. However, don't play hard to get or read too much into things. I think that you'll know when he's showing you real signs of interest. Also, don't believe all of what you hear from others about a person. Even though there may be an element of truth about things that we hear, if it doesn't come from the person, it may be only half true.
You can open yourself up to being approached by smiling and always acknowledging his presence. If nothing comes of it, I'd say that he's either not interested or is too much of a coward to talk to you, and you definitely don't need that.
Good luck!!