What Do I Do Next
Find a Conversation
What Do I Do Next
| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 10:18pm |
I have been seeing this guy since January,and seeing is defined by a phone call once a week and getting together at the bar everyother weekend, and the occasional coming home with me.He wouldn't have sex with me until last weekend, and now that we have I feel like I made a mistake.Don't get me wrong it was great but I'm going crazy not knowing where we stand. How am I supposed to confront him with the "where do we stand question" without making him feel put on the spot? I am a very upfront person and say things that come out harsh or overwhelming, I need to know how to approch this in a sensiable way....please help!

Pages
But one question:
Why would he not have sex with you until recently?
Powered by CGISpy.com
However, I do feel that you deserve an explaination. If it were me, (and I have my fair share of problems, so you may not want to take my advice), I would just point blank ask him. I prefer to ask these things face to face, hard as it may be. But at least then you can see his reaction (if you can pin him down long enough to ask face to face). It may not be what you want to hear, but at least then you would know. I believe in flat out honesty, even if it is hurtful at times.
How long were you guys dating before he agreed to sex?
Powered by CGISpy.com
I guess if you can't get him in person, you need to ask him over the phone, just for your own peace of mind. However, if you can't get him in person, that might be your answer right there. I hate to say it, but that's what I'm leaning towards. If he wanted to see you he would. It sucks, but true. Not sure why he'd hang around for 3 months and not have sex, unless he was having sex with someone else. I know I'm being cynical, but I've been there too...
Powered by CGISpy.com
If he doesn't call, then it's time to try your hardest to put this behind you. That is the hard part, the worst part! I don't do well with the dating thing at all. Of course it helps for us to get involved with better men to date too!
Long story on my guys excuse, but it seems like it COULD be legitimate. However, I don't appreciate being left hanging. I guess it wouldn't be such a big deal, but I was really looking forward to it.
I am going to call him in a bit, and just tell him I need to know what is up for tonight. I'm going to have more respect for myself than to let myself go thru this. If he ditches me, I'm going to tell him exactly how I feel, no holding back, and if he is sincere about me, he will do his best to make it right. If not, then I have my answer.
Powered by CGISpy.com
Pages