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what do I do now?
| Sun, 12-05-2004 - 5:02pm |
Well I have a neighbor we have been friends for about 4 mo and 5 mo ago he broke things off with his fiance she was cheating on him. Needless to say he was crushed. His mom has cancer so he is going through a lot of things. Well we started out as just friends but the we have been seeing each other almost every weekend for the last few weeks, anyway we kissed one night a few weeks ago and I freaked out and said I only wanted to be friends so we keep kissing though the last few times we have seen each other. Well we finally slept together this weekend and I don't know what the next step is. We are supposed to see each other next weekend but I want to see him before that. I saw him yesterday and things were fine between us but we didn't discuss what had happened. I don't think he is ready for another relationship but at the same time I really care about him and I don't know what to don't want to mess thigns up. Any advice?

Bellina here, I'm a trifle confused as to your emotions in regards to your friend or is there more,here? As you've said you kissed,but were surprised by this only wanting friendship,and now have become intimate? Seems to me like perhaps you're desiring a bit
more than friendsship? He's a bit fragile and most probably still mending his broken heart from a prior fiance.I'd try to take both of your feelings into account,as to
what type of relationship you see in near future? Or don't proceed to just treat kissing,sex,touching as casual,cause in most cases feelings become deeper bonded emotionally,(unless one prefers casual sexual liasons).These are all things to openly communicate your "friend" or potential romantic love partner.If things go as they are,and
you're both in agreement super.For me,from passed broken hearts in treating sex as casual,just doesn't create for a happy relationship,leaves me empty.Guess I'm very
British,conservative and a true believer in oldfashioned romance.But whatever suits
your beliefs,desires,then follow your heart first and mind in that order!Be happy and best
wishes with your friend/or possible love. regards,Bellina