What the @#% do I do now?
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What the @#% do I do now?
| Fri, 09-10-2004 - 11:22am |
Greetings all,
Ypu may recall that I posted a while back and had a big problem. I'll gove you a little history. I met this guy in February, we became friends,and then lovers. But we were lovers with no strings attached. Much to my dismay, he was not interested in pursuing a committed relationship at the time. The sex was great and I wanted to continue sleeping with him so I agreed to our " sex with no strings" relationship. That was my first mistake, 6 months later I have developed feelings for this man that can be felt in other places besides between my legs. I love him. and I think he knows it. I also think that he feels things for me that he is afraid of, because every time we get closer, or too close for comfort he backs off. I'll get to the nuts and bolts of this post though.
The otehr day I called him over to my house to do a favor for me ( about the house strictly business) after he had finished he sat down on the couch and we talked briefly.
Then out of no where he started talking to me real disrespectfully, I told him he was hurting my feelings and he left. He was not immediately appologetic either. In fact I had to totally go off on him before he realized how bad he had hurt me. Then he was all apologetic with the " baby I'm sorry" act. I don't think I should believe him I think I have put myself in a bad situation. You all remember I told you before that I moved to be closer to him " at his request" ( I am renting his house ) and now it's like he does not even like me anymore. I have not done anything to warrant this behavior and I am really confused about what to do next. I really did have sincere feelings of love for him, but he killed it and he keeps killing it, What should I do?
Ypu may recall that I posted a while back and had a big problem. I'll gove you a little history. I met this guy in February, we became friends,and then lovers. But we were lovers with no strings attached. Much to my dismay, he was not interested in pursuing a committed relationship at the time. The sex was great and I wanted to continue sleeping with him so I agreed to our " sex with no strings" relationship. That was my first mistake, 6 months later I have developed feelings for this man that can be felt in other places besides between my legs. I love him. and I think he knows it. I also think that he feels things for me that he is afraid of, because every time we get closer, or too close for comfort he backs off. I'll get to the nuts and bolts of this post though.
The otehr day I called him over to my house to do a favor for me ( about the house strictly business) after he had finished he sat down on the couch and we talked briefly.
Then out of no where he started talking to me real disrespectfully, I told him he was hurting my feelings and he left. He was not immediately appologetic either. In fact I had to totally go off on him before he realized how bad he had hurt me. Then he was all apologetic with the " baby I'm sorry" act. I don't think I should believe him I think I have put myself in a bad situation. You all remember I told you before that I moved to be closer to him " at his request" ( I am renting his house ) and now it's like he does not even like me anymore. I have not done anything to warrant this behavior and I am really confused about what to do next. I really did have sincere feelings of love for him, but he killed it and he keeps killing it, What should I do?

That said, I think you should find your own place and stop talking with him. He wants to keep you around for sex, but will not go to the next level with you. You should end all contact with him until you can truly just be friends and not be in the position to easily give in to sex with him.
End it now before he finds something *better* and starts actually dating her and leaves you hanging.
Go out and find the relationhip you deserve, do NOT settle.
Alison
He is more scared of committing I think than anything else....
Has nothing to do with the business aspect of renting his house. What I do kno about this man is that he does not make rash or hasty decisions... He does indeed want me to rent his house, but the reasons why may not have been clarified as of yet. I appreciate you trying to help, BUt it sounds to me like you are bitter about something and you are giving out bad advice just for the hell of it.. I do not have to see him to send him a rent check every month..