have you met this friend of his, he calls his sis? does he know her from before he met you? Do you both (his sis and you) like each other.
i find it very odd that you are not invited. i find it even more odd that your BF does not suggest to them if he can bring you along? has your BF ever showed an interest in having you with him when he goes out? Next time, ask him to ask them if you can come along too (if the relations are informal, and casual and friendly, then how does you being there at a club with them change anything?). be there and see what's going on...and what feelers you get from everybody. I don't how this sounds to you, but you could even surprise them by showing up with your BF.
If this doesn't happen, invite them all to hang out with you both, so you can get to know them better. Why not have a movie night or something. I think you need to meet these girls.
I think they are being insensitive to you by not inviting you. You have every right to feel the way you have been feeling. Invite more conversation from your BF, so you know how he feels about things.
Thanks for responding. No I have never met her before. He grew up with her and her family and they have always been close accrding to him. I really dont know her to really like her or dislike her all I know is what he says. I have always known him to talk to her on the phone but she has been calling like everyday a couple times a day and her friends are always there. He never shows any interest in bring me around them and I have asked to go out with him places and he says the he wants to go out with his friends. When his sisters friend called him today and invited him to her party I asked him if I could go and he said no he is just stoping in real quick and isnt staying. Isnt that weird? We have a mutual friend and she was approach by some of her friends that were friends with him too and asked why he never brings me around, what I looked like, etc. They told her that he tells him it is not the right time to meet me. What is that? I confronted him on this because I thought he was embarrassed of me of some sort but he tried to rassure me that he loves me and that we fight alot and did not want his sister around all that and stuff so I let it go. I still feel strange about all this because I think something might be going on. Do you think that one of them like him or do you think it could possible be the other way around he likes them or something? I do want to meet them just so I can get an idea but he never wants to bring me around when I ask and he never invites me so what should I do?
Hmmm...I did not understand the bit about him mentioning the fights. Are there issues between the two of you that are bothering him? Maybe you both need to resolve all that first. Has ur BF introduced you to any of his other friends? Has he introduced you to his parents yet? I might be jumping the line, but I am trying to get a feel of where he is at in the dating process.
It is not easy to tell what is going on between him and his friends. But if your BF is being very vague about this whole thing, and the girls are making you uncomfortable, then a good BF should be a bit more sensitive, and see what he can do to remove your doubts. He should introduce you to the friends he meets regularly, and not keep it looking so mysterious and separate. That's my opinion.
Talk to him about why exactly he does not feel ready.
It sounds to me like he cares more about his "sister's" feelings than yours. I would not tolerate that after a year. I think it's worth investigating since he seems to hide you from meeting her. There ARE girls who don't care whether or not a guy has a gf. But it's HIM that you need to worry about. HE is disrespecting you by keeping you a secret.
After a year you should definately have met his friends. I don't understand why he doesnt want you around them or meeting them.
I hate to play devil's advocate but thats just not right.
How would he feel if you went out w/ guy friends and refused to bring him along or for him to even meet them.
the whole superbowl thing. the simple fact that he was only 'stopping in' for a minute should have been enough of a reason for you to be able to go w/ him, just so you could say hi.
I would investigate. Maybe send some of your friends to the same club they go to on the night that hes supposed to be there.
regardless though he should care enough about your feelings to not be doing this.
have you met this friend of his, he calls his sis? does he know her from before he met you? Do you both (his sis and you) like each other.
i find it very odd that you are not invited. i find it even more odd that your BF does not suggest to them if he can bring you along? has your BF ever showed an interest in having you with him when he goes out? Next time, ask him to ask them if you can come along too (if the relations are informal, and casual and friendly, then how does you being there at a club with them change anything?). be there and see what's going on...and what feelers you get from everybody. I don't how this sounds to you, but you could even surprise them by showing up with your BF.
If this doesn't happen, invite them all to hang out with you both, so you can get to know them better. Why not have a movie night or something. I think you need to meet these girls.
I think they are being insensitive to you by not inviting you. You have every right to feel the way you have been feeling. Invite more conversation from your BF, so you know how he feels about things.
Hmmm...I did not understand the bit about him mentioning the fights. Are there issues between the two of you that are bothering him? Maybe you both need to resolve all that first. Has ur BF introduced you to any of his other friends? Has he introduced you to his parents yet? I might be jumping the line, but I am trying to get a feel of where he is at in the dating process.
It is not easy to tell what is going on between him and his friends.
But if your BF is being very vague about this whole thing, and the girls are making you uncomfortable, then a good BF should be a bit more sensitive, and see what he can do to remove your doubts. He should introduce you to the friends he meets regularly, and not keep it looking so mysterious and separate. That's my opinion.
Talk to him about why exactly he does not feel ready.
After a year
you should definately have met his friends.
I don't understand why he doesnt want you around them or meeting them.
I hate to play devil's advocate but thats just not right.
How would he feel if you went out w/ guy friends and refused to bring him along or for him to even meet them.
the whole superbowl thing. the simple fact that he was only 'stopping in' for a minute should have been enough of a reason for you to be able to go w/ him, just so you could say hi.
I would investigate.
Maybe send some of your friends to the same club they go to on the night that hes supposed to be there.
regardless though he should care enough about your feelings to not be doing this.