What do you all think of this...?
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| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 5:11am |
He waited five days before responding - saying that he'd been 'staying with friends'. No problem, I've never even met the guy, so whatever.. Anyway he told me that he was up for coming down to meet me and asked me to find a cheap Bed and Breakfast in the area. I responded saying that I'd do a little research on it and get back to him, but then I heard nothing back from him. After four or five days, I sent him a brief e-mail saying that maybe he was really busy, or perhaps he'd had some success on the site a little closer to home, but that if he was still interested in coming down to meet me, I had some info for him and that he should let me know but if not, best of luck and all that. He got back to me the same day, giving me this story about how he had had to rescue this old couple he knew from a DIY disaster, but that he had checked out flights and they seemed cheap enough and that he was totally up for it and to send him the info. I sent him the info - he then waited another few days to answer (bear in mind - according to this guy, he has been successful enough in his business that he 'doesn't have to do the 9 to 5 grind' to quote him. ) And said that the Saturday night flight looked like the best one and that he was going to e-mail the B&B for more information that day. Since he'd taken his time getting back to me, I thought I'd wait a little while to respond - had a busy weekend, and sent him a short e-mail after the weekend, saying, great, sounds good, let me know when you want to make some plans. That was Monday - it's Friday today. I feel kind of irritated and annoyed and feel like if this is his MO - we would not be well suited - I tend to feel as though he is playing games - not responding and then when I've got one foot out the door, responding the same day. I was thinking of writing a brief e-mail just saying that I don't think we'd be a good match since our communication styles seem to be so different, but perhaps it's best to just say nothing -- what do you all think?
Thanks for any feedback.
Coolas

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Very strange. But no, not taking it personally, taking it as a sign that this guy must be dodgy - or else he met somebody else which is fine, but after all the correspondence and photos and all, you would have thought he would have been gentlemanly enough to tell me.
Ah well. Moving right along...
Thanks all!!
Coolas
But I'm glad to see you're not distressed over it. Good luck with the next one. :)
I have to say - I've been at this for about a month and I'm not sure how much I like it -- I haven't met anybody yet mind you! But I find it surprisingly difficult to write about myself to a stranger I have never met. And don't have much interest in getting into some long-winded exchange - Perhaps I come across as a bit abrupt or maybe too direct, but then I think that if a guy is put off by an e-mail I send then he probably won't be for me. Just got a very interesting e-mail from a guy in Paris (I'm down in the South) but I sure ain't holding my breath at this point!
Thanks for your thoughts!
Coolas
It does take time to separate the wheat from the chaff . . .
Well, predictably, as soon as I was certain I'd heard the last of him, he's resurfaced. His 'excuse' is that he's been in Toronto with his brother for the last couple of weeks (they don't have e-mail there?) and was sorry he hadn't been in touch. However, he's still up for 'wining and dining me' if I'm 'still on the market'.
On the one hand I'm tempted to tell him to f-off because I'm not interested in unreliable men, on the other, I've got that curiosity killed the cat type of thing going on - I'd like to get a look at him in the flesh, at least have dinner with him before I decide definitively that I'm not interested. I'm certainly very suspect now - and would definitely be watching the feet and not the lips, but wonder whether there's any point.
Thoughts please. Thanks all!
Coolas
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