What do you think his comment meant?
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What do you think his comment meant?
| Mon, 05-08-2006 - 2:24pm |
I was out for the fourth time with this guy i met awhile ago. He asked me where i was, and what i was looking for, as for a relationship standpoint. I really like him and i do want more than just casual dating, i want relationship with him, so i answered that i was tired of meeting all these people, and i wanted to focus on just one person and have a relationship. He said: "I'm not looking for anything complicated, but it doesn't mean that i don't want it"..That comment kind made me cold. What does that really mean? Thanks to all who respond.

Yeah, I think you're better off NOT pressuring him to say he wants to be one-on-one with you. Because it sounds like he has already told you he's comfortable "just dating" for now, and he isn't ready to make any promises, yet. That makes sense to me. You've only been out together 4 times. In fact, I think you should look at his "if it happens, it happens" comment in a positive light. That says that he's at least open to the POSSIBILITY of something serious happening down the road.
The one thing you should clarify, at this point, is whether you are sexually exclusive if you're having sex with each other.
Otherwise, relax and enjoy the dates as they happen. If after another couple of weeks of dating you still feel like you should be seeing each other exclusively, I would bring the subject up again, and I would be very clear. But be prepared to WALK if he isn't ready to go one-on-one.
Good luck.
It means he's a guy! You've only been out 4 times, so he's not gonna profess undying love. And he said he's not closed to the idea of a commitment in time. So just try to relax and enjoy the journey. Save the next talk for several months down the road.
Good luck