what does he mean?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2006
what does he mean?
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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 7:12pm

Hi everyone! I need help quickly! I met this guy at this job I used to work at. He's really shy and I'm really shy. We went out to lunch a few times before I left. (We went as a group) Well, on our last lunch outting, I gave him this CD. Well, I got his email from a fellow co-worker to ask him how he's enjoying the CD and we've been emailing each other since this past Monday. He ALWAYS leaves his emails with open questions. He always leaves smily faces in every email. In one of the emails he wrote he said he thinks "i'm innocent". I told him that I would prove it to him that I wasn't, anyday, anytime, just name it. So, he emailed me back with "we're talking about drinking, right?" and I said "I was assuming drinking. Right? What were you thinking?" and with that he replys "proving me wrong in anything would work! I am just kidding with you. I was talking about the drinking too!! But if you wanted to prove me wrong in another way, just run it by me."

I didn't write back after he wrote that because well, I'm not sure what to write!! I'm meeting him for lunch tomorrow (with the same group of people). What do I reply back to him with (before we hit up lunch tomorrow?!?!) Someone please help me out here!!!

Thank you so much!!!
-M

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2005
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 8:02pm
Well, in a way you're the one who started the email exchange of sexual innuendos by saying you'd prove to him you're not innocent so I'm not sure why you're freaking out. In any case, since you already have plans to have lunch, you can just tell him that you'll continue the discussion further at lunch.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2006
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 12:08am
What you should tell him is this.... "When you first told me that you thought I was innocent...perhaps you were right afterall..... because what you have done at this point is dared me to go beyond what I think is appropriate...however due to my innocence... I will give you another chance to start over and just maybe we can prove each other wrong about this whole episode." Tell him this to his face not in an e-mail and be really up front when you say it. Let him know that you are not afraid of him or anyone and if he still thinks you are innocent after that.....he's deluding himself
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 6:39am

michi_mich4414...

Quick question from Pianoguy:

"Have you ever noticed when both halves of a couple claim that they're shy...at least one of 'em USUALLY ISN'T?"

Reserved or cautious about an upcoming date.....maybe? But if both halves of a couple were REALLY SHY...how could they even think about going out together?

Assuming the man you're having lunch with ISN'T JUST INTERESTED IN GETTING YOU DRUNK...why not enjoy your lunch hour, strike up a few generic conversations, and leave it at that?

NO VISITS to his apartment or to the back seat of his car...at least on the first date! :)

Pianoguy