What does he really mean...reading men
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| Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:32pm |
Need some advice on this great guy I met and so want to see back. I waited a week and sent him an email on a thursday. I understand it was a last minute thing and it was a long weekend for us but He wrote back:
It was great talking to you too ! Yeah, we definitely have to try to hook up
soon. My Sat and Sunday nights are booked up this weekend, so it'll probably
have to be next weekend I guess...:-)
Talk to you soon !
Barry
To me this seems very positive and nice but I did no get any news back from him all week, I am dying here, what the deal now I cant really call or eamil again because I made the first move. We our friday tomorrow no news to see each other this weekend ?
What am I SUPPOSE TO DO OR THINK ? I thought he was interested or would call but no sign of life and I would love to see him so much. Should I call, I feel he should.
Thjanks for any input on this issue, Reading Men !!

I'm not old fashioned - but someone saying that we'll have to "hook up" - means let's hang out and see where this leads.
Admittedly, he's said he is booked this weekend...and he might call next with a priority on phoning on Wednesday - to invite you on Friday, to something where getting to know you thru conversation is the point. That'd be a date.
But what you need to "read" into this is that he at least at present as lots of irons in the fire, or options on the plate...and if something better comes up, or if he already has plans - he'll be making loosely structured potential plans with you.
I'd say that you're NOT going out this weekend with him...I personally, again not old fashioned, don't believe there is anything wrong with you calling him and asking him out "formally"....since that might be the only way that you actally get a date - vs. hanging out/hooking up type of interaction. Taht'd give you a chance to see if he wants to date....also.
Erin
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I don't think that the term "hooking up" really means, ahem, just "hooking up". It's just a casual loose term people use instead of being all formal and saying "we can go out on a date". I wouldn't read too much into that.
My other thought - It's Thursday, don't you already have plans this weekend? I mean, call a friend and make some already! Okay, I'm kidding, but not really. Don't let yourself sit at home because then you'll just be sitting by the computer waiting for an email. And a last minute "hook up" email really DOES mean "hook up". Get out there, go to a movie, visit a friend, go to a concert, anything to get you away from the computer.
Just my 2 cents worth. Now if I could just take my OWN advice and get away from MY computer!! =)
Sheri
To me it sounds like he really DOESN'T have anything serious in mind. His e-mail is full of "we'll try" & "I guess". I figure he either isn't really into seeing you, or just wants something casual for whenever he doesn't have better plans.
If I were you, I wouldn't contact him, & would make plans too. If he does eventually contact you & want to make plans to see eachother- great, but if he doesn't,I'd still have things to do, & wouldn't be sitting & waiting in vain.
besides, I do have a problem with the term "hook up". I think if what a guy wants is a date, he might say "get together" or simply "go out"... "hooking up" does not sound like an intended date.
well, that's my take on things. hope it all works out for you anyway. :)
First off let me give you a hug, I wish I could be there in person to give it to you, but the virtual one will have to do sorry.
I don't think he is interested, I am a guy and not saying I would do that, but thinking like a man, TRUST me if I was interested in a woman I would find someway to express it, flowers, a call to see how you are doing, or something. Remember I am not old, but hey I know what women like......attention.
I would make plans for the weekend, but ones you can break, and if he calls great but if he doesn't its his loss not yours. Please don't put all your hopes into hearing from him that is what women do and I know it hurts.
Wishing you the best.
Andrew