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What does he really want?
| Thu, 06-10-2004 - 8:44pm |
Hi,
I was seeing a guy who had recently broken up with his girlfriend. He had no problem seeing me on weeknights but whenever I asked why never weekends he would give me all these excuses until I got fed up and told him no more. He finally told me he didn't want a girlfriend right now but wanted to see me anyway. He said he wasn't going out with anyone but me but because he just got out of a relationship he didn't want another right now. He mentioned he wanted time with his guy friends on the weekends but he wanted to see me weeknights for now. I was hurt but I didn't say anything and he did it again (I knew he would, I was warned) that very next weekend. Anyhow, he called as usual that Monday (from work) to ask to come over on Wednesday (as always) and I very reluctantly said okay but the very moment we hung up I called his home answering machine and said I changed my mind and didn't want to see him and in fact not at all anymore...yes, I'm a coward. Anyhow, he called that very night to tell me how hurt he was with me and can we still be friends then because he wants to keep talking because 'we don't know what the future holds' ???? I said okay, friends but no more. Well, now he calls me every day and if my line is busy asks who, what, where, when how... to which I ignore. (it's just my girlfriends but it's none of his business) Today he called again in the morning to tell me that he is going to his parents home in another State and wants me to watch his dog. I asked why and he said because he only trusts me with his house key and knows I would be good to his dog. It seems I hear from him now more than I ever did when we were kinda, sorta dating... I'm not sure what he's looking for here? Is he just confirming that friends it is and that is why I can continue to watch his dog when he goes out of town? Any help here would be greatly appreciated.
I was seeing a guy who had recently broken up with his girlfriend. He had no problem seeing me on weeknights but whenever I asked why never weekends he would give me all these excuses until I got fed up and told him no more. He finally told me he didn't want a girlfriend right now but wanted to see me anyway. He said he wasn't going out with anyone but me but because he just got out of a relationship he didn't want another right now. He mentioned he wanted time with his guy friends on the weekends but he wanted to see me weeknights for now. I was hurt but I didn't say anything and he did it again (I knew he would, I was warned) that very next weekend. Anyhow, he called as usual that Monday (from work) to ask to come over on Wednesday (as always) and I very reluctantly said okay but the very moment we hung up I called his home answering machine and said I changed my mind and didn't want to see him and in fact not at all anymore...yes, I'm a coward. Anyhow, he called that very night to tell me how hurt he was with me and can we still be friends then because he wants to keep talking because 'we don't know what the future holds' ???? I said okay, friends but no more. Well, now he calls me every day and if my line is busy asks who, what, where, when how... to which I ignore. (it's just my girlfriends but it's none of his business) Today he called again in the morning to tell me that he is going to his parents home in another State and wants me to watch his dog. I asked why and he said because he only trusts me with his house key and knows I would be good to his dog. It seems I hear from him now more than I ever did when we were kinda, sorta dating... I'm not sure what he's looking for here? Is he just confirming that friends it is and that is why I can continue to watch his dog when he goes out of town? Any help here would be greatly appreciated.

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