What does he want?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-01-2004
What does he want?
1
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:32am
I have been seeing this guy for 5 months and in the beginning it felt like he couldn't get enough of me. He always want to be with me, treating me to dinner etc and when we weren't together He would get a little upset when I would have other plans but would always call me at some point of the day. Well a few months into it. He started hanging out with his buddies more that were going back to school. Spending time with each other became less and the frequent phone calls disappeared. But I understood, so i backed off slightly. I thought after they would all leave, it would go back to normal. Well, when his friends left for school, he became "depressed" and then we only saw each other once a week. He would call once or twice a week. Sometimes, I call and he doesn't answer nor does he call back. However, he's very affection when we are together. For my birthday, we hung out a little but he didn't get me anything or take me out. Its weird though,just the other day he let me have his hat that he was wearing when we were together. This guy is confusing. How can a guy be all over me then not but kinda still wants me around? What does he want?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 9:58am
He's probably not as interested in you and you are in him. It most likely makes him feel guilty to call you sometimes because he feels pressured by your interest in him. He likes seeing you because you have fun together, but he's not in it for the long haul. He came on strong in the beginning because that's the way he felt at the time. Somewhere along the way, he has lost interest in you.

It's common for a man to like the pursuit and then once he has you, he moves on. You did nothing wrong. I'm sure you're wonderful. I suggest that you stop calling him. Back off. He's making you unhappy and it's not likely to improve. I've been there before.